LEVELS OF MATURITY
LEVELS OF MATURITY
07-01-2008, 12:11 PM
" Levels Of Maturity" When dating someone you may find that you are the older lover in the relationship who is trying to raise your mate. At first it starts off as a chase of cat and mouse and becomes exciting and even explosive .Then you find that there is really a lot of hidden potential in the younger mate so you do everything in your power to encourage them to become the being that you know that they can become.You break your back,burn your energy and then shut down after time has went by just to find that you want them to be a success more than they do. So you keep pushing and they push back in rejection ,yet claiming that they too do want to succeed.You as the older lover has been given many warning signs and you just choose to overlook them.Signs that there Mother/Parents are always holding them up as if they are still a child.You have to learn that they are just not ready to grow up! They are not on the same level as you because you are the older mate.They have not lived life as you have nor have been through life experiences as you have.They simply have chosen not to fly the coop and stick to what they think is safer for them which is home with Momma or tend to live as close as they can to Momma,so that if they tend to fall throughout life ole Momma may have there backs.This is usually the 18 thru 28 year old age bracket.It is best for the older lover to leave them alone until they do grow into the age of maturity to where they are ready to fly the coop on there own away from home or else you will always find yourself trying to raise them as well.That means you will always be telling them what they need to do or should do to better themselves.This age group is usually not good with money because they really never had to take on responsibility.The results from the younger lover would be they know what they are doing and that they are grown when neither is true.Maturity shows ,it does not speak. Then you may find yourself in a relationship with someone your own age group and that seems like the right choice to make.To grow old together.Yet a lot of times you find yourselves in a competition and both parties want to be right most of the time.This leads to a lot of fighting and the end results is to seperate from eachother,yet always feeling as if you can lean on eachother in the time of need.This is the 30 year old age bracket.No matter how much you seperate,you still feel the connection between eachother. Now the lover who reach the 40's feel as if they have done it all and are ready to live and let live before they turn 50! Late 40's and 50's end up going backwards by going through midlife crisis and at this age ,many get divorced because of trying to be 21 again.Going for the younger mates,hangin out in bars and driving sports cars. At the age of late 50's and 60's ,you are looked at as great grand parents and not many are even trying to be mates with you at this age unless they think they can collect on Social Security when you die and your retirement check as well. The Levels Of Maturity Indeed... ~KOKO~
"Reality Is Only Overwhelming
In The Eyes Of Those With No Face."
The New -N- Improved ~koko~
Re: LEVELS OF MATURITY
07-09-2008, 7:13 AM
I feel you on this kokocreole. Man women today we are just so phenomenal, its crazy. I recently ended a 5 year relationship with a wonderful man because he was not on my level. Relationships like this can be damaging and I had to learn the hard. But financially who is going to be there when you need help. I ask this because at the end of the day when you are all used up he still has his mama to go home to.
You were meant to prosper. So.......whats stopping you?